To anyone else who’s striving for more than life gave them.
The truth had to come out eventually.
For years, I maintained a facade of “trust fund kid living off daddy’s money”.
While not fully intentional, I’ll admit that a part of me enjoyed it.
The reality? I grew up poor with a single mom. No family connections. No inheritance.
I came from nothing.
Yet here I am at 24, living in central Paris across the Louvre, documenting a lifestyle that most people dream about.
My friends from home know the truth – I wasn’t born into this world.
So how did a poor kid from Singapore end up living this life?
The Journey So Far
At age 21, while most of my peers were still in school, I moved to Cape Town and found myself living a life of luxury apartments, fine restaurants, weekly wine tastings, and European holidays.
As you might expect, my DMs were often bombarded with questions like:
“Do you even work?”
“How are you affording all this?”
“What do you do for a living?”
The questions have only become more frequent, now that I live in Paris.
Gorgeous apartment, prime location. Private clubs. Art exhibitions. Constant travelling.
I never had an answer to those questions myself, until recently.
Most people started a business, got into crypto, hustled, OnlyFans…
I took an alternative approach.
How I Really Ended Up Here
Life growing up wasn’t terrible. But it was certainly far from comfortable.
At age 16, I made a decision that would change everything moving forward.
Instead of being bitter about the world I wasn’t born into, I decided to stop being a victim of my circumstances, and take control of my life.
I realised something crucial:
To become the main character in your own story, you sometimes have to start as a side character.
I started looking to those who seemed to have it better. And instead of thinking: “It’s not fair.” – I started learning from them.
Adopting this mindset, I started finding myself in places and situations a poor boy from Singapore had no business being in.
Being flown out across the world. Experiencing things I could never afford growing up. Meeting people I thought only existed on screens. And eventually, I somehow found myself thrown into a world that some might refer to as “high-society“.
I made plenty of embarrassing mistakes.
After all, how was a peasant boy to know how to behave in rooms full of ‘royalty’?
How could I belong? Let alone command respect?
I had to learn the language.
Not just how they spoke, but how they thought. The why behind the choices they make, the money they spend, the art they appreciate, and the values they hold.
Turns out, if you spend enough time swimming with sharks, you’ll eventually start to grow gills.
It wasn’t just about faking it – it was about developing a genuine understanding of this world.
The result? Meaningful connections with people who saw past my ‘pedigree’.
People who opened up opportunities.
Connections that led to unique work opportunities and places to live.
Some people studied themselves into a career. I studied myself into a life.
That’s how I got here.
So no, unfortunately no trust fund or daddy’s money. But rather:
- 8 years of trial, error, correction, and criticism.
- Countless embarrassing moments that still make me cringe
- Thousands of dollars on the wrong choices, wrong clothes, wrong approaches
- Hours of immersion in art, literature, cultural references, and social etiquette I should have learned growing up
- Social isolation from an old life while learning to appreciate a new one
I spent years figuring out that you simply can’t Google:
“How do you behave in a room of people who wear watches that cost more than your family’s net worth?”
I think it’s unfair that cultural education is often limited to those born into it. That appreciation for art, literature, wine, and craftsmanship should be gate-kept by accident of birth. I’m not much of a social-justice warrior, but I believe that if you have the hunger to understand and appreciate beautiful things, you deserve access to that knowledge.
That’s why I’ve decided to create a community for others who weren’t born into ideal situations, but want to strive for more, without having to do it all on their own.
This isn’t one of those “get rich quick” schemes.
In fact, I’m inviting you to do something extremely high effort – catching up on years of cultural education that we weren’t raised with – and potentially low-reward.
Life will become more difficult. When you decide to stop being a victim of circumstance, people will hold you to a higher standard. People will expect you to know things that you never grew up with. Imposter syndrome will hit hard.
But at least you’ll be one step closer to the person you want to be – the person who can confidently belong in any room, regardless of how much money is in your wallet. (or your dad’s)
It hasn’t gotten any easier, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I’m inviting you to join me on a journey of a lifetime.
What You’ll Learn
In this community, I’ll be sharing the knowledge I’ve accumulated over the years that helped me to confidently navigate rooms where opportunities and quality connections lived.
Here’s what I realised – to be able to truly belong in “high society” spaces, you don’t just need to know the world of luxury, jets, and fancy things. Beneath the opulent facades, are people who’ve received world class education, and were exposed to art, culture, and social etiquette that we didn’t grow up with.
You’ll learn:
- Cultural foundations from Baroque art to classical literature
- How to develop genuine taste in everything from tailoring to wine to music
- Lifestyle knowledge from luxury hotel chains to chartering yachts
- Buying philosophy – understanding craftsmanship, heritage brands, and why certain things are worth investing in
- Cultural fluency – the books, music, art, and ideas that we missed out on
- Refined conversation – how to discuss topics you’re not an expert on with depth and sophistication
The Course
Every week, I’ll be releasing a new video course and cheat-sheet covering:
The basic info you need to navigate these topics with confidence
Social conventions and Taboos
Intelligent questions to ask
Quizzes to check your knowledge.
The first 7 episodes are live now.
Module 1: Learn the Lifestyle
(Available now)
- Luxury Watches
- Wine
- Tailoring
- Private Jets
- Yachts
- Art Investment
- Horses
In progress:
- Steak
- Cigars
- Whisky
- Ski Resorts
- Golf
- Tennis
- Luxury brands
- Hotel Chains
- Holiday destinations
- Restaurants
- Real estate
Module 2: Learn the Culture
(In progress)
- Classical art
- Classical music
- Classical literature
- Architectural styles
- Art movements
- Jazz & Swing
- Ballroom dancing
- Operas
- Boarding schools
- Elite Universities
Module 3: Reinvent Yourself
(In progress)
- Introducing yourself
- Building your wardrobe
- Buying Philosophy
- How to carry yourself
- Telling your story
- Lifestyle without the cost
And much more to come…
I’m not teaching you how to pretend to be cultured. I’m teaching you how to become someone who genuinely appreciates the finer things in life.
The beautiful thing is, once you understand these cultural foundations, you can participate in their world even without the budget. You can appreciate a $30 bottle of wine properly, understand classical music for free, and discuss literature that costs nothing to read.
The connections come naturally when you’re someone worth knowing.
What This is Not
Most things like this teach you “networking tricks” and “conversation hacks.”
That’s surface level bs. Real sophistication can’t be faked – it has to be genuinely developed.
You need to actually understand why a Patek Philippe matters, what makes Bordeaux special, why certain authors are considered essential reading.
I’m not teaching you:
- How to fake being wealthy
- Get-rich-quick schemes
- How to get handouts
- Cheap tricks to get invited places
- How to name-drop or show off
I’m sharing the education we missed out on growing up that will help you to confidently belong in the spaces where opportunities live.
How Do I Join?
I’d like you to spare you the years and thousands of dollars I spent learning all this, not to mention the embarrassment, social isolation, and constant doubt of going through it all alone.
Right now, you can get lifetime access to the community for $29.99.
As I add more modules and the community grows, the price will increase. The earlier you join, the more value you get for the lowest price.
What do you get?
– Lifetime access to the ever-increasing number of courses and cheat-sheets
– A community of like-minded people
– Personal insider recommendations from myself and the community
– Exclusive content produced specially for community members
– Get your personal questions answered in-depth
– Private Instagram story with exclusive content
Why Lifetime Access?
Developing genuine culture and refinement isn’t a month-long course. It’s a lifelong journey of appreciation and learning. As I continue navigating these circles and deepening my own understanding of this world, I’ll keep adding modules and insights, for no additional cost.
I’m not interested in extracting monthly payments from you. I want you to develop genuine sophistication, and that takes time. Consider this a one-time investment in becoming the person you’re meant to be.
The Real Secret
Even if you decide that this isn’t for you, here’s what I want to leave you with.
After four years in this ‘world’, here’s what I ultimately realised: it’s not about having money or being born into it. It’s about having taste.
If you embody the knowledge and values of someone who belongs in “high society” through self-education and personal development, everything else follows – the connections, the lifestyle, and perhaps even the money.
When you genuinely understand art, appreciate quality, discuss literature intelligently, and develop refined taste, you become magnetic to people who matter. They recognise someone who shares their values, regardless of your bank account or family name.
Who this is for
This isn’t for everyone. Most people are better than me – less insufferable, more content with where they were born. If you’re happy with your current circle and opportunities, you don’t need this. Often, ignorance is bliss.
The Bottom Line
I cracked the code to a world I wasn’t born into. Instead of gatekeeping it, I want to help people who have the same hunger I did.
I’ve had many mentors in my life. I’m by no means the most qualified person, but in this world of social media facades, I hope what I have to share will help you.